Mo Abudu Scoops Exclusive Interview with US Secretary of State Hillary Rodham Clinton
Posted on Monday, August 17th, 2009 at 8:50 am
By Bella
Mo Hilary Clinton
US Secretary of State – Hillary Rodham Clinton visited various African countries earlier this month. As part of her African tour, she visited Nigeria where in line with the Obama administration’s firm stance on the state of affairs in some African nations, her message t Nigerian political leaders was basically – clean your act up.
Moments With Mo host, Mo Abudu secured an exclusive videotaped interview with Secretary of State Clinton. Below is the transcript. The show will be aired soon during the new season of Moments With Mo.
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MO: Madame Secretary, the challenges facing the African woman are many, from poverty to lack of education, to, you know, non-participation in governance, especially in the numbers that we require; physical abuse, sometimes mental abuse; the glass ceiling syndrome. How can we persuade our leaders that the status of women is a priority issue for them?
SECRETARY CLINTON: That is such a great question, and it’s one that I have been devoted to answering for many, many years now because the evidence is overwhelming. You can look at economic studies, World Bank studies, sociological studies that have piled up on shelves across the world, that if you do not empower women, you do not give them the tools to make good choices in their own lives, education and health care, access to credit, participation in their societies, then your country cannot develop beyond a certain point.
MO: Right.
SECRETARY CLINTON: It is just a fact; you cannot leave most of the other half of the country behind.
MO: Half of the country behind.
SECRETARY CLINTON: And in Africa, women work so hard. And here in Nigeria, 70 percent of the small farmers are women, as they are throughout Africa. Women get up in the morning, they tend to their children, they tend to their husband, they tend to their crops and their livestock, they cook, they bring firewood. It’s a never-ending work.
MO: Never-ending work.
SECRETARY CLINTON: And I remember, years and years ago being in Africa, and an economist had said, well, it’s too bad women make no economic contribution.
MO: Hello? (Laughter.)
SECRETARY CLINTON: Hello? And of course, what he was meaning, in the most narrow technical sense, is that most of what African women do all day, every day –
MO: Is not being rewarded.
SECRETARY CLINTON: — is not in the formal economy. But if African women decided to stop working tomorrow, the whole continent would shut down. People wouldn’t eat. Crops wouldn’t be planted and harvested, a lot of the informal retail market would not go on, just in every area you can imagine. So from an economic perspective, empowering women is critical. Obviously, from a human perspective, from a moral perspective, we’re in the 21st century; all human beings, no matter what religion or ideology you reference, have the right to develop to their God-given potential. And too many women in too many parts of Africa are –
MO: Are not being developed fully.
SECRETARY CLINTON: They are not being developed fully.
MO: And not being educated.
SECRETARY CLINTON: That’s right.
MO: They’re not able to play a role. They’re not able to participate in government.
SECRETARY CLINTON: That’s right.
MO: And that needs to change. That needs to happen.
SECRETARY CLINTON: And that also, unfortunately, as you know so well, perpetuates problems of the next generation. Because if you educate a man, you educate a man. If you educate a woman, you educate a family.
MO: A family.
SECRETARY CLINTON: And a community. And what we want are educated children. And Nigeria has a huge population under the age of 15. If their mothers are illiterate, if their mothers cannot advocate for them, if their mothers cannot get access to healthcare for them, we just perpetuate the cycle of dependence and impoverishment.
MO: And it goes on and on and on. Thank you, Madame Secretary.
In your trip to Kenya, you spoke about stereotypes and that they were stale and they were outdated. At Inspire Africa, when I started this journey, we coined a phrase that we called the five Ds, and that the Western media keep portraying Africa in this light. And they are disease, despair, destitution, disaster, and destruction.
Now, if the Western media keep portraying that image of Africa that is outdated and stale, as you also said, you know, this would – could this have an impact on investment into the continent? It impacts the mindsets of those that you meet, even as the African person, if this is the picture that you continually see. How do we fight against these stereotypes or these five Ds, as we have coined them?
SECRETARY CLINTON: Well, I think you have, unfortunately, accurately depicted the stereotypes that exist. Part of the reason for my trip so early in my time as Secretary of State is to talk about both the opportunities and the problems. I mean, every society has both. There is no perfect society. Some places in Africa are much further along than other places. But every society has to be constantly taking stock. In a democracy particularly, you have to hold your leaders accountable. You have to say, “You said you would do this for me – more electricity. You have to deliver.”
So there’s a constant give-and-take that has to go on. And I think it’s important that more voices like yours be speaking on behalf of Africa. Look, I’m not going to sugarcoat the issues that we all know about. I was in Goma yesterday in eastern Congo. Horrible, horrible –
MO: Stories.
SECRETARY CLINTON: — atrocities.
MO: Yes.
SECRETARY CLINTON: But at the same –
MO: They need to be spoken about, yes.
SECRETARY CLINTON: And they need to be spoken about. But at the same time, let’s look for the positive, inspiring stories –
MO: Positive things, yes.
SECRETARY CLINTON: — so that people believe there’s hope, and that if they work hard, they too can be successful. I mean, if all you hear is the negative, it’s like raising children. If you’re only negative to a child, over and over again –
MO: Exactly. “You’re stupid, you’re silly, you’re this, you’re that” – then they become that.
SECRETARY CLINTON: That’s exactly right. They have no positive self-esteem. Africa’s got so many great things happening here. And not only that, I mean, the joy of so many people in Africa is contagious. It’s –
MO: We are considered the happiest nation, apparently, Nigerians. (Laughter.)
SECRETARY CLINTON: Well, I mean, there is something about people feeling good about themselves. Now, you have to do more on behalf of your society.
MO: Yes.
SECRETARY CLINTON: But there is a story that I’d like to be more comprehensive than just the five Ds, as you say.
MO: Yes. And also for there to be balance in the reporting.
SECRETARY CLINTON: Exactly.
MO: Thank you, Madame Secretary. As an African people, we are very submissive, we are very accepting. Authority is something that we respect very much. So in this society of ours, when we see things going wrong, how can we as citizens make change happen? Because we are so accepting and we are so submissive, what do we do?
SECRETARY CLINTON: I think that’s an interesting analysis. I’ve never heard it put like that before. Every society has social and psychological characteristics. And what you say will cause me to think very hard on your description. But assuming that your description fits generally, I think there are several approaches.
One, there are huge extended families within Nigeria, as you know. And I think within families, a lot of change can start. As young people say to themselves, I want to have better opportunities, you tell your elders. I mean, for young girls, we want them to go to school; for communities, we want schools to be present; for people who are sick or for young women about to become mothers, we want health clinics. There is a lot which people can do, speaking up and advocating for themselves. And it’s not just at the national authority here in Abuja, it’s at the local authority, at the state authority. I know I learned that all of the governors in Nigeria have banded together to finally get rid of polio in Nigeria.
MO: Yes.
SECRETARY CLINTON: Well, there are lots of problems like that that can be taken to your local government to make the case.
And then on a broader basis, Nigeria has to have vigorous elections that are credible and free and produce outcomes that people accept. I know that your parliament is currently looking at an electoral reform law. People should stand up and say, we need that. In a democracy, you contest for elections – and I’m a witness and an exhibit of this –some people win and some people lose. I’ve won some elections, I’ve lost some elections. So part of what you have to understand is that you can’t always win, but a fair electoral process will give everyone the chance that they have the opportunity to win.
And I think, finally, people need to be speaking out to their elected officials on what they need to have the benefits of development. There’s corruption in every country. We know there’s corruption in this country, and we know that the benefits of the riches of oil do not get to the vast majority of people in Nigeria.
MO: That need it, yes.
SECRETARY CLINTON: And so people need to be saying, “I deserve electricity. I deserve food security. I deserve the kind of development that a country with so many riches as ours should be able to produce for people.”
MO: To give to people, definitely. And talking about democracy, what do you consider to be the essential elements that we need to establish and to build a culture of transparency and accountability in our democratic process? Because that is so key to ensuring that all of this can come to – can happen, can (inaudible).
SECRETARY CLINTON: Well, you’re right to ask about ingredients plural, because some people think you hold an election, therefore you’re a democracy. But that’s not right. First, the election has to be free, fair, credible, legitimate. And that’s very important for Nigeria. Secondly, there has to be a real opportunity to contest an election. That means that people don’t just show up and say, “I want to run for office.” You have to build grassroots political organizations. You have to build networks of support so that when you contest an election, you stand for something.
MO: Of course.
SECRETARY CLINTON: There has to be a free and independent judiciary. There has to be a free and independent press, which you are a symbol of.
MO: Yes.
SECRETARY CLINTON: There has to be an awareness that people inculcate in their hearts and their minds that everyone in the ballot box, everyone in a democracy, is equal. Someone may be a billionaire and you may be a poor villager, but your voice counts as much as anyone’s.
MO: So that’s when you become one.
SECRETARY CLINTON: Yes.
MO: That’s when everybody’s on the same playing field.
SECRETARY CLINTON: That’s right. And because –
MO: One man, one vote.
SECRETARY CLINTON: That’s right. And because Nigeria is so diverse –
MO: Yes.
SECRETARY CLINTON: — you have such pluralities of – someone said to me today that it is many nations made into one nation.
MO: Into one nation. 150 million people.
SECRETARY CLINTON: That’s right. You have to protect minority rights. Just because someone’s in the majority, that doesn’t mean you ignore the rights of the minority. So there are many aspects to getting a fully functioning democracy up and going.
MO: The issue of corruption, it is widespread in Africa. What can we learn from advanced democracies on how to fight corruption in Africa?
SECRETARY CLINTON: Well, I think it’s very important that Africa tackle corruption, because the development of Africa is being undermined by corruption. And we have offered several ideas: more transparency, more information about the revenues coming into government and the expenses going out of government. Now that we have computers, everything should be put online. Any person in Nigeria with access to a computer should be able to find information out, that – we like to say letting sunlight be the best disinfectant.
I think it’s also important to have a strong investigative arm within the government, prosecutors and law enforcement who do not favor any party or any person. There’s an Elections and Financial Corruption Commission, the EFCC, that needs to be strengthened with good leadership. And we will try to continue to support that.
I think it’s also important to have no impunity. People often know who the biggest perpetrators are. There needs to be an outcry, and not just from poor citizens who feel like they are being taken advantage of, but everybody who has risen up in this society needs to recognize that if you don’t get 150 million Nigerians to believe that the society works for them, you will begin to see splintering of that unity and that union. That would be terrible for Nigeria.
So taking on corruption is an economic issue, it’s a justice issue, but it’s also a political issue, it’s a cultural and an ethical issue. And all of that need to be kept in mind.
MO: Wonderful. Madame Secretary, I believe our time is up.
SECRETARY CLINTON: Oh, what a shame. I’ve enjoyed talking to you.
MO: I wish I could be here, but I’m trying to keep to the agreement that we had initially. But it’s been short, but it really has been an experience. It’s been an amazing opportunity for me, and I want to thank you so much.
SECRETARY CLINTON: Thank you. Well, thank you for having me.
MO: And we celebrate you, and you know, you really are someone that inspires women. So – all your achievements, it’s – we’re proud of you.
SECRETARY CLINTON: I appreciate that very much. Thank you so much, Mo.
MO: Thank you.
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The Quickest Way To The Bedroom With Her
***DATING QUESTION FROM READER***
Dave,
WOW!!!! Thats all I can say. I've been getting
your emails for several months and have since
downloaded your book. I've committed myself to
improving my "skills" with women and the results
have been amazing. The "Crash and Burn" that most
guys are sooo fearful of NEVER happens and very
rarely does a girl give you anything but a smile
even if she isn't interested. My latest success
was so easy it was almost scary. I met a woman
(an 8.5 at least) in a local bar and used the c/f
to get her number and set up a date. Went out on
the date and it was almost like it was scripted.
Pushed the c/f to the extreme all night, teased
her, drove her completely crazy and left her house
at 5:00 am the next morning. Here's the thing,
using this material you will very often hear,
"Oh... I can't believe I'm doing this..I never do
this kind of thing." Usually I laugh hysterically
inside, and respond with the heart felt, "Oh I
know, don't worry about it." The problem is with
this girl it was different. First, even using
your vast knowledge, I didn't expect to be able to
get this far with this girl on the first date. She
had that intangible "it" that really attracted me
to her and I actually don't think that under
normal circumstances she would have taken a guy
home but.... most guys don't have the benefit of
the "David DeAngelo Jedi Mind Tricks" either
(lol). Anyway this was Saturday and I called her
Monday just to say hi. She was soooo nervous and
uncomfortable she could barely complete a
sentence. Obviously with everything that happened
I think she was a bit embarrassed and, that's to
be expected, but now I'm not sure how to handle
this situation. I'm afraid now that if I'm not
REALLY careful that I'll screw up a chance with a
great woman. I get the feeling that she needs a
little reassurance that this wasn't just a one
night stand, but I'm not sure if that's the right
thing to do or if it is, how to do it without
coming off like a WUSS BAG! I think this girl
could be worth some effort.........PLEASE HELP!!!
Thanks for everything, JH Monroe LA
>>>MY COMMENTS:
This is a great story, and your story
illustrates all kinds of interesting things. I'd like to
comment on a few of them before I actually answer
your question.
The first thing I'd like to comment on is this
illogical progression of how you went from meeting
this girl to being intimate so fast.
To begin with, you acted Cocky & Funny, and
teased her... "to the extreme", which somehow resulted in
her spending the night with you.
Now, at first glance, this makes absolutely no
sense at all... I mean, why would a woman who is
obviously very attractive and "in demand" want to
get physical with a guy that isn't buying her
things, giving her compliments, and generally
kissing her ass all night long?
The answer, of course, is that ATTRACTIVE WOMEN
DON'T ACTUALLY WANT A GUY TO DO THESE WUSSY THINGS
IN THE FIRST PLACE!
Unfortunately for most guys, our cultures,
religions, and mothers have programmed us to be
"nice guys" when we're around women we feel
attracted to.
This does two things:
1. Hands all of your power over to the woman.
2. DESTROYS any ATTRACTION that might be present.
Again, I know it's illogical, but attractive
women have AMAZING gut level emotional ATTRACTION
responses to men who CHALLENGE them and who act
UNPREDICTABLE in a particular way.
Part of creating this illogical and desirable
response is knowing how to use arrogance and humor
together in a formula I call "Cocky & Funny"
(which you obviously get).
Of course, there's a lot more to it, but the
key is that you have to STOP DOING WHAT ISN'T
WORKING... namely, being a NICE WUSSY BOY.
If you're reading this right now, and you're
one of those guys who thinks that women are attracted
to "nice guys", then think again, and read THIS:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/AdvancedSeries
The second thing I'd like to comment on is when
she said:
"Oh...I can't believe I'm doing this...I never
do this kind of thing."
I've talked to a lot of guys who are VERY
successful with women about this particular
phenomenon, and they all say similar things.
It seems that whenever a woman is going to get
"physical" quickly, they have to rationalize it
"out loud" first.
Sometimes a woman will say "I'm not like this"
or something similar to slow things down and try
to explain away what's happening.
Don't let it bother you.
Of course, if a woman says, "stop" or she
actually tries to stop you from kissing her (or
anything else), then you need to STOP immediately.
I'm not suggesting at all that you don't respect a
woman's wishes.
But, you also need to understand that just
because a woman is SAYING that "she doesn't
usually do things like this", that it doesn't mean
she doesn't WANT to.
The final point I'd like to comment on before
answering your question, is this response that she
had when you called her back. You mentioned that
she was so nervous and uncomfortable that she
couldn't complete a sentence.
I have seen this exact same thing, and I have
several friends who have told me stories just like
this.
It seems to me that when an attractive woman
who is used to being the one in control meets a
guy who is super confident, Cocky & Funny,
unpredictable, and NOT EASILY CONTROLLED, it
freaks her out.
Sometimes she literally doesn't know what to
do, and she doesn't know how to act. Often, she
will be self-conscious about the fact that she
"got physical" so soon, or about some other
thing... but it really comes down to the fact that
she just doesn't know how to deal with you.
This is a great place to be, and don't let it
bother you when it happens.
And now, to answer your question... of how to
handle this situation.
First of all, don't start acting TOO
DIFFERENTLY.
If you start acting all nice and lovey, you'll
come across in a way that will be confusing... and
it will probably make her run.
If you want this to turn into something more,
then you need to be cool and calm about EVERYTHING
that happens.
If she seems nervous, just relax and make a
joke about it.
With attractive women, it's always a good idea
to "lean back" and give her space.
As a rule of thumb, call her half as much as
you would normally call a woman, and see her half
as much... at least for the first few weeks.
GIVE HER THE GIFT OF MISSING YOU.
And if you're going to be "nice", then BE VERY
CAREFUL AND DON'T DO TOO MUCH TOO SOON!
When the average guy meets a really attractive
woman that is "different" from the others... one
that he wants to have a relationship with... he
usually starts doing too much. He buys gifts,
calls all the time, and gives lots of compliments.
As you know, this is SUPER SIZE WUSS BOY
behavior, and it usually results in the woman
running away.
In other words, you must not let her nervous
state affect YOUR state or YOUR behavior.
KEEP DOING WHAT WORKS.
...and if you're reading this right now and
thinking to yourself "You know, I need to learn
this stuff about how to meet and attract women...
and how to take things to a physical level fast",
then YOU'RE RIGHT!
I think that every man should invest in
himself, and learn this skill.
Unfortunately, most guys never take the time
and invest in themselves... and they wind up going
their whole lives WISHING that they could attract
the kinds of women that they want.
Well, I used to be one of the guys who didn't
know what he was doing with women. Now I'm one of
the guys who can go out anytime, in any situation
and attract women.
What's the difference?
I TOOK THE TIME TO LEARN.
And if you'd like to learn, then I recommend
you learn the things that I learned FIRST.
It's taken me a long time to figure all this
stuff out, and it's also taken a lot of time,
effort, and energy on my part to put it all down
on paper and on audio and video... so that any guy
can learn from the things I've discovered.
I'd like to personally invite you to check out
my materials. In a matter of hours you can learn
things that it took me YEARS to figure out... all
from the comfort and privacy of your own home.
If you'd like to learn more about sex and
sexuality, then you MUST get your hands on a copy
of my "Power Sexuality" DVD/CD program.
Inside this program you will learn how to build
an incredible SEXUAL CONFIDENCE that will not only
make women feel more ATTRACTION for you... but it
will also help you take things to a "physical
level" much more smoothly and easily.
David DeAngelo
Dave,
WOW!!!! Thats all I can say. I've been getting
your emails for several months and have since
downloaded your book. I've committed myself to
improving my "skills" with women and the results
have been amazing. The "Crash and Burn" that most
guys are sooo fearful of NEVER happens and very
rarely does a girl give you anything but a smile
even if she isn't interested. My latest success
was so easy it was almost scary. I met a woman
(an 8.5 at least) in a local bar and used the c/f
to get her number and set up a date. Went out on
the date and it was almost like it was scripted.
Pushed the c/f to the extreme all night, teased
her, drove her completely crazy and left her house
at 5:00 am the next morning. Here's the thing,
using this material you will very often hear,
"Oh... I can't believe I'm doing this..I never do
this kind of thing." Usually I laugh hysterically
inside, and respond with the heart felt, "Oh I
know, don't worry about it." The problem is with
this girl it was different. First, even using
your vast knowledge, I didn't expect to be able to
get this far with this girl on the first date. She
had that intangible "it" that really attracted me
to her and I actually don't think that under
normal circumstances she would have taken a guy
home but.... most guys don't have the benefit of
the "David DeAngelo Jedi Mind Tricks" either
(lol). Anyway this was Saturday and I called her
Monday just to say hi. She was soooo nervous and
uncomfortable she could barely complete a
sentence. Obviously with everything that happened
I think she was a bit embarrassed and, that's to
be expected, but now I'm not sure how to handle
this situation. I'm afraid now that if I'm not
REALLY careful that I'll screw up a chance with a
great woman. I get the feeling that she needs a
little reassurance that this wasn't just a one
night stand, but I'm not sure if that's the right
thing to do or if it is, how to do it without
coming off like a WUSS BAG! I think this girl
could be worth some effort.........PLEASE HELP!!!
Thanks for everything, JH Monroe LA
>>>MY COMMENTS:
This is a great story, and your story
illustrates all kinds of interesting things. I'd like to
comment on a few of them before I actually answer
your question.
The first thing I'd like to comment on is this
illogical progression of how you went from meeting
this girl to being intimate so fast.
To begin with, you acted Cocky & Funny, and
teased her... "to the extreme", which somehow resulted in
her spending the night with you.
Now, at first glance, this makes absolutely no
sense at all... I mean, why would a woman who is
obviously very attractive and "in demand" want to
get physical with a guy that isn't buying her
things, giving her compliments, and generally
kissing her ass all night long?
The answer, of course, is that ATTRACTIVE WOMEN
DON'T ACTUALLY WANT A GUY TO DO THESE WUSSY THINGS
IN THE FIRST PLACE!
Unfortunately for most guys, our cultures,
religions, and mothers have programmed us to be
"nice guys" when we're around women we feel
attracted to.
This does two things:
1. Hands all of your power over to the woman.
2. DESTROYS any ATTRACTION that might be present.
Again, I know it's illogical, but attractive
women have AMAZING gut level emotional ATTRACTION
responses to men who CHALLENGE them and who act
UNPREDICTABLE in a particular way.
Part of creating this illogical and desirable
response is knowing how to use arrogance and humor
together in a formula I call "Cocky & Funny"
(which you obviously get).
Of course, there's a lot more to it, but the
key is that you have to STOP DOING WHAT ISN'T
WORKING... namely, being a NICE WUSSY BOY.
If you're reading this right now, and you're
one of those guys who thinks that women are attracted
to "nice guys", then think again, and read THIS:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/AdvancedSeries
The second thing I'd like to comment on is when
she said:
"Oh...I can't believe I'm doing this...I never
do this kind of thing."
I've talked to a lot of guys who are VERY
successful with women about this particular
phenomenon, and they all say similar things.
It seems that whenever a woman is going to get
"physical" quickly, they have to rationalize it
"out loud" first.
Sometimes a woman will say "I'm not like this"
or something similar to slow things down and try
to explain away what's happening.
Don't let it bother you.
Of course, if a woman says, "stop" or she
actually tries to stop you from kissing her (or
anything else), then you need to STOP immediately.
I'm not suggesting at all that you don't respect a
woman's wishes.
But, you also need to understand that just
because a woman is SAYING that "she doesn't
usually do things like this", that it doesn't mean
she doesn't WANT to.
The final point I'd like to comment on before
answering your question, is this response that she
had when you called her back. You mentioned that
she was so nervous and uncomfortable that she
couldn't complete a sentence.
I have seen this exact same thing, and I have
several friends who have told me stories just like
this.
It seems to me that when an attractive woman
who is used to being the one in control meets a
guy who is super confident, Cocky & Funny,
unpredictable, and NOT EASILY CONTROLLED, it
freaks her out.
Sometimes she literally doesn't know what to
do, and she doesn't know how to act. Often, she
will be self-conscious about the fact that she
"got physical" so soon, or about some other
thing... but it really comes down to the fact that
she just doesn't know how to deal with you.
This is a great place to be, and don't let it
bother you when it happens.
And now, to answer your question... of how to
handle this situation.
First of all, don't start acting TOO
DIFFERENTLY.
If you start acting all nice and lovey, you'll
come across in a way that will be confusing... and
it will probably make her run.
If you want this to turn into something more,
then you need to be cool and calm about EVERYTHING
that happens.
If she seems nervous, just relax and make a
joke about it.
With attractive women, it's always a good idea
to "lean back" and give her space.
As a rule of thumb, call her half as much as
you would normally call a woman, and see her half
as much... at least for the first few weeks.
GIVE HER THE GIFT OF MISSING YOU.
And if you're going to be "nice", then BE VERY
CAREFUL AND DON'T DO TOO MUCH TOO SOON!
When the average guy meets a really attractive
woman that is "different" from the others... one
that he wants to have a relationship with... he
usually starts doing too much. He buys gifts,
calls all the time, and gives lots of compliments.
As you know, this is SUPER SIZE WUSS BOY
behavior, and it usually results in the woman
running away.
In other words, you must not let her nervous
state affect YOUR state or YOUR behavior.
KEEP DOING WHAT WORKS.
...and if you're reading this right now and
thinking to yourself "You know, I need to learn
this stuff about how to meet and attract women...
and how to take things to a physical level fast",
then YOU'RE RIGHT!
I think that every man should invest in
himself, and learn this skill.
Unfortunately, most guys never take the time
and invest in themselves... and they wind up going
their whole lives WISHING that they could attract
the kinds of women that they want.
Well, I used to be one of the guys who didn't
know what he was doing with women. Now I'm one of
the guys who can go out anytime, in any situation
and attract women.
What's the difference?
I TOOK THE TIME TO LEARN.
And if you'd like to learn, then I recommend
you learn the things that I learned FIRST.
It's taken me a long time to figure all this
stuff out, and it's also taken a lot of time,
effort, and energy on my part to put it all down
on paper and on audio and video... so that any guy
can learn from the things I've discovered.
I'd like to personally invite you to check out
my materials. In a matter of hours you can learn
things that it took me YEARS to figure out... all
from the comfort and privacy of your own home.
If you'd like to learn more about sex and
sexuality, then you MUST get your hands on a copy
of my "Power Sexuality" DVD/CD program.
Inside this program you will learn how to build
an incredible SEXUAL CONFIDENCE that will not only
make women feel more ATTRACTION for you... but it
will also help you take things to a "physical
level" much more smoothly and easily.
David DeAngelo
wHO LEAVES KOKOMANSION TODAY? EVICTION FEVER GRIP HOUSEMATES
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THE latest victim that will leave the Koko Mansion among the remaining eight girls (Kokolette) will be known today as eviction takes place this evening from 5pm on Koko TV, the channel that broadcasts happenings in Koko Mansion.
Tension has gripped the girls, Shona, Rita, Elizabeth, Victoria, Chinwe, Chidinma, Bolanle and Rekana already. Uncertainty hangs in the air; every contestant is putting final touches to her game plan to remain in D’banj’s mansion for the remaining four weeks.
The dance competition, one of the many tasks the Kokolettes have undertaken since they moved into the mansion last month, was great...Both teams (Blue and Red teams) did very well. It would have been hard to decide which team was going win. But at last, Red team (Chidinma, Rekana, Chinwe, and Lizzy) won. The kokolettes had more than a guest in the mansion this last week. Singer D'jinne was in the house to do what he knows how to do best. The Mamuzee Twins had earlier in the week taught the girls some dance steps while the ‘owner’ of the mansion, Afro hip hop superstar, D'banj was in the house, and had a one on one chat with the girls. He talked about managing their success, and specifically managing the N5million naira prize money (for the eventual winner). The Grotto night club and bar owner, Abiodun Adegoke, was also a guest at the mansion.
There's been a sudden kind of closeness between Shona and Chinwe, strange, but true.
However, the next person to join the evictees, Bidemi, Chioma, Mary and Lillian will be known today when show hostess, Marian Anazodo and D’banj announce the result of votes cast by viewers across the globe.
Koko Mansion that enters its fifth week today has generated a lot of interest among viewers of the reality show being aired on HiTV Pay TV Company.
Koko Mansionrevolves around the quest of 12 beautiful, talented girls that will live in a mansion for eight weeks, to become the ideal Kokolette (wife). The Mansion is situated in an undisclosed area in Lagos. Hip hop superstar D’banj will play a vital role in the oncoming show.
In these weeks, the young women will be groomed and tested in various activities in order to determine the one with the greatest Koko Virtues, worthy of being a wife –a Kokolette.
Some of these Koko Virtues that the viewer that would be the ultimate judge in the intrigue-filled show would be looking out for are: the ability of the Kokolette to cook scrumptious meals, her ability to furnish and maintain the mansion. The Kokolette must also be industrious while being able to take care of the home front; her ability to be respectful and courteous at all times would be put to test. The potential Kokolette must be able to emulate notable women in the society even as she shows the ability to impress the viewers, under all circumstances in order to win the public’s votes to remain in the house among others.
D’banj would among other things, help the public determine who the winner should be. He is currently one of the most eligible single young men in Nigeria and it is believed that the music star will be able to adequately represent most men in the limelight who people assume would not appreciate a complete woman. So, with the help of his friends and associates, the public will know the most tolerant, hospitable and respectful woman in the mansion. D’banj’s entertaining character may also act as a catalyst that will bring out the girls’ true personalities.
The winner of the show will emerge the most sought Kokolette.
The Kokolette must be a beautiful young lady, at least 18 years old; she must be smart and intellectually savvy; she must also possess a fun talent she is willing to explore and definitely a WIFE material. She must be well-cultured with sound domestic training, an absolute diva with the ability to get along with a diverse crowd. The Kokolette must be someone with good moral values, independent and ambitious aside being a creative person.
The Kokolette must also be an excellent host, a very creative person who understands and can get along with the celebrity lifestyle of the hip hop star. A video audition was used by the panel determine the 12 finalists.
Eviction is primarily done by the public and could be based on D’banj’s comments. Every week, there will be a talent show segment where each lady must showcase her talent to the viewers. Talent is an important criterion to be part of the show because it would serve as the platform for each Kokolette to become a celebrity in their own right after the show. However, each week, among the three ladies up for eviction, it would be D’Banj’s prerogative to give Koko Mycine (immunity) to one of the girls. He can only use Koko Mycine once in the duration of the show. “The winner will among other benefits, be crowned Kokolette 1, get a Chris Aires Diamond ring, a brand new convertible car, feature in his next music video You Don Make Me Fall In Love alongside N5 million in cash. Aside that, the winner will be D’Banj’s companion at public events both within and outside Nigeria. She would further emerge as HiTV’s Hi-Babe; that is, Beautiful,
Amiable, Bold and Entertaining. Asides from exploring her talent professionally, she’ll be obligated to get involved in women empowering projects that would especially reinforce the unique role of an African woman in the development of our society-
THE latest victim that will leave the Koko Mansion among the remaining eight girls (Kokolette) will be known today as eviction takes place this evening from 5pm on Koko TV, the channel that broadcasts happenings in Koko Mansion.
Tension has gripped the girls, Shona, Rita, Elizabeth, Victoria, Chinwe, Chidinma, Bolanle and Rekana already. Uncertainty hangs in the air; every contestant is putting final touches to her game plan to remain in D’banj’s mansion for the remaining four weeks.
The dance competition, one of the many tasks the Kokolettes have undertaken since they moved into the mansion last month, was great...Both teams (Blue and Red teams) did very well. It would have been hard to decide which team was going win. But at last, Red team (Chidinma, Rekana, Chinwe, and Lizzy) won. The kokolettes had more than a guest in the mansion this last week. Singer D'jinne was in the house to do what he knows how to do best. The Mamuzee Twins had earlier in the week taught the girls some dance steps while the ‘owner’ of the mansion, Afro hip hop superstar, D'banj was in the house, and had a one on one chat with the girls. He talked about managing their success, and specifically managing the N5million naira prize money (for the eventual winner). The Grotto night club and bar owner, Abiodun Adegoke, was also a guest at the mansion.
There's been a sudden kind of closeness between Shona and Chinwe, strange, but true.
However, the next person to join the evictees, Bidemi, Chioma, Mary and Lillian will be known today when show hostess, Marian Anazodo and D’banj announce the result of votes cast by viewers across the globe.
Koko Mansion that enters its fifth week today has generated a lot of interest among viewers of the reality show being aired on HiTV Pay TV Company.
Koko Mansionrevolves around the quest of 12 beautiful, talented girls that will live in a mansion for eight weeks, to become the ideal Kokolette (wife). The Mansion is situated in an undisclosed area in Lagos. Hip hop superstar D’banj will play a vital role in the oncoming show.
In these weeks, the young women will be groomed and tested in various activities in order to determine the one with the greatest Koko Virtues, worthy of being a wife –a Kokolette.
Some of these Koko Virtues that the viewer that would be the ultimate judge in the intrigue-filled show would be looking out for are: the ability of the Kokolette to cook scrumptious meals, her ability to furnish and maintain the mansion. The Kokolette must also be industrious while being able to take care of the home front; her ability to be respectful and courteous at all times would be put to test. The potential Kokolette must be able to emulate notable women in the society even as she shows the ability to impress the viewers, under all circumstances in order to win the public’s votes to remain in the house among others.
D’banj would among other things, help the public determine who the winner should be. He is currently one of the most eligible single young men in Nigeria and it is believed that the music star will be able to adequately represent most men in the limelight who people assume would not appreciate a complete woman. So, with the help of his friends and associates, the public will know the most tolerant, hospitable and respectful woman in the mansion. D’banj’s entertaining character may also act as a catalyst that will bring out the girls’ true personalities.
The winner of the show will emerge the most sought Kokolette.
The Kokolette must be a beautiful young lady, at least 18 years old; she must be smart and intellectually savvy; she must also possess a fun talent she is willing to explore and definitely a WIFE material. She must be well-cultured with sound domestic training, an absolute diva with the ability to get along with a diverse crowd. The Kokolette must be someone with good moral values, independent and ambitious aside being a creative person.
The Kokolette must also be an excellent host, a very creative person who understands and can get along with the celebrity lifestyle of the hip hop star. A video audition was used by the panel determine the 12 finalists.
Eviction is primarily done by the public and could be based on D’banj’s comments. Every week, there will be a talent show segment where each lady must showcase her talent to the viewers. Talent is an important criterion to be part of the show because it would serve as the platform for each Kokolette to become a celebrity in their own right after the show. However, each week, among the three ladies up for eviction, it would be D’Banj’s prerogative to give Koko Mycine (immunity) to one of the girls. He can only use Koko Mycine once in the duration of the show. “The winner will among other benefits, be crowned Kokolette 1, get a Chris Aires Diamond ring, a brand new convertible car, feature in his next music video You Don Make Me Fall In Love alongside N5 million in cash. Aside that, the winner will be D’Banj’s companion at public events both within and outside Nigeria. She would further emerge as HiTV’s Hi-Babe; that is, Beautiful,
Amiable, Bold and Entertaining. Asides from exploring her talent professionally, she’ll be obligated to get involved in women empowering projects that would especially reinforce the unique role of an African woman in the development of our society-
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